Originally posted by WildWeasel
I'd argue that it would be more painful for them to watch their loved ones watch them slowly wither away, rather than simply being notified second-hand of their deaths.
Painful? Maybe, but as I said, they at least get to say their goodbyes, set their affairs in order, make things right with folks they've wronged, etc.
I remember when younger I used to hope I'd die quickly and painlessly (a heart attack in my sleep, etc.). Then my focus changed over the years, and I began to realize that life is all about relationships. When you love people, and *are* loved, it's important to cling to those relationships, for they're what really makes life worth living. Fame, career achievements, money, etc., all pale in comparison when you're facing eternity. There's an old saying that's truer than most folks realize ('course, most folks have never heard this saying in the first place): "No one ever spent their last moments on their deathbed wishing they'd spent more time at the office"...
I now hope that when I die, I will have some warning of it ahead of time, so that I can take advantage of the time I have left to really make sure I'm "ready" to go RE: doing the things I mentioned above. Sure, I wouldn't want to have a slow and agonizing death, but if it gave me the opportunities mentioned above, I think it'd be worth it. I'm "ready" to die right now, if the Lord wants to take me, but I'd still want to have the opportunity to say goodbye first.